Through the MyVirtualLife site I raised a male that I named Luis. I took into consideration a wide range of things, like the way in which I was reared, that helped me bring up my virtual son. Because I found it important to set rules and expectations, but also be flexible, the Authoritative style of parenting was my choice. In this style, the parental attributes incorporate being high in warmth and correspondence and also high sought after and control, (Aberle, 2013). While bringing up my kid, I settled on my choices in light of what I thought was the legitimate technique. As a result of my decisions, Luis ended up being a well-adjusted, stable individual with great potential for success in society.
Luis Caraballo was born after eight hours of labor and an emergency C-section. With the distress and drama of Luis’ birth, he was still ranked a 7-8 on the Apgar score and by all accounts, he physically was a normal baby.
The first few months of Luis’ life were tough at times for my partner and myself. This was our first child and we were not confident. One challenge during the first few weeks was the lack of sleep my partner and I faced. Luis would only sleep for two hours at a time and I found myself talking softly in his ear and rocking him back to sleep often. I wanted my son to feel safe and comforted and know he could trust me for his basic needs. (Erikson, 1950)
Knowing that we both would need to work outside of the home in order to save money for a house, we decided not to breast feed, but to use formula and disposable diapers. After approximately 3 weeks, we find that Luis isn’t eating much and has bouts of indigestion accompanied by diarrhea. I bring him to the doctors immediately. I am told to treat him with pedialyte and rice water and if it should persist to change his formula. Eventually, we change Luis’ formula and his cries were no longer from pain but rather from his wants and needs.
Over the next 6 months, Luis changes physically, cognitively, socially and emotionally and it is exciting and exhausting at the same time! His gross motor and fine motor skills are improving. He is grasping toys, holding his head up more, rolling over, and pushing up on his arms. He is also sleeping longer, eating solid foods, and responding to the funny faces I make at him.
Luis prefers to be with my partner, however, I am a close second. “According to Erikson and Bowlby, the key to healthy social development is a strong, reliable attachment to a primary caregiver” (Arnett, p177), so I am not discouraged.
At nine months Luis started walking and began to recognize words and pointing to something he wants. He is advanced in his gross and fine motor skills and enjoys crawling, pulling up to stand and manipulating objects. I notice he has become more interested in his surroundings so I take advantage of this development to create a stronger bond with him. I walk outside a lot carrying him or pushing him in the stroller so that he can see the brilliant colors and sounds of the outdoors. I want to stimulate his mind and body apart from the confines of the house. I feel the outdoors has more to offer him and I hope he will learn to love it as much as I do.
When we do travel outside of the home, I notice Luis is cautious around new people and situations. I persist in trying to get him to smile and accept the person if it is someone close to our family; others I stay close to him and let him gradually get used to the person, allowing him to make his own choice about interacting with them. He eventually warms up and starts babbling, smiling and making eye contact.
Based on Thomas and Chess’ temperament type, Luis is an easy baby. He generally has positive reactions to people and tolerates changes in his routine.
The child’s explorations of environment – piaget’s concept of tertiary circular reactions
18 months normative behavior changes such as increased motor skills, language gains, recognition of self in the mirror, toddler resistance to parental commands, deferred imitation and the beginnings of toileting awareness—developmental assessment
24 months 1) Normative behavior changes such as the appearance of the self-conscious emotions (guilt, embarrassment), interest in becoming potty-trained, and transitions in daycare groups or in the Mommy and me playgroup will be reported.
2) Children will vary in reported levels of verbal ability, health, logico-mathematical ability (symbolic thinking), security of attachment, and personality type. The aspect of personality type that varies here is compliance with parental requests.
Luis is growing quickly! The activities that we engage in with him that promote an interest in physical activity and promote his motor skills are things like throwing, catching, kicking a ball, running, climbing and dancing. On.the.behavioral.side,.we.explain what behavior is deemed wrong and a time-out is the typical punishment, but when his behavior is good, praise or a reward is given with an explanation of why. This is known as operant conditioning, in which the consequences of behavior determine whether a behavior is repeated, through reinforcement or punishment. (B.F. Skinner, 1990)